A recent conversation with a friend made me think about the concept of “ definitions ”. I don’t know about you, but as a kid I had no idea on the difference between beautiful or ugly. I didn’t know who was black or white. Hell, I didn’t even know right or wrong. I was a little kid, having no clue what this world had in store for me, so I made friends easily, played pranks and lived in a world where the only thing that mattered was Tom & Jerry on the TV and toys to play with. That’s all I needed to make me happy. The only competition that happened was between my brother and I, on who got the most number of chocolates (I always did).
What happened to that carefree little girl with short curly hair? How did she grow so fast? Since when did she start caring about how she looked. When did Tom & Jerry slip out of the timetable and got replaces with subjects like physics and maths. Why did she have to give up the comfort of flats to wear heels. Why did she become so insecure of things that don’t even matter? Why did she cover her mouth every time she laughed?
She learned the definitions the society had created for specific things. She learned the definitions of beautiful, pretty, ugly, cute, funny etc. She was young and had no idea that these words didn’t have fixed definitions. Yes, my friend you heard that right, there is no fixed definition for these words. She was naïve and easily affected by the things the society had thought her. But she was wise, she soon learnt that she didn’t fit in these definitions. So, she tried and tried different ways to fit into them, to mould herself into these definitions. She longed to be called beautiful. She was desperate to fit in, to be like everyone else.
Alas, she was different, I am different and so are you. Remember I told you she was wise; it took time but now she knows that these words don’t have fixed definitions. No, they don’t. You create your own definition. Yes, you take the word and put your very own meaning to it. The moment this happens, nothing can stop you. Be who you want to be not whom you are taught to be. Still wondering if you fit, don’t bother you don’t fit, nobody does and that’s why let’s embrace ourselves in every form. You don’t like your bunny teeth start embracing it. Your tiny little flaws that you feel insecure about, honey they define you as an individual. Never let the expectations of others censor your characteristics. I am proud of who I am and you should be too. In this world where there is war knocking at every corner, self-love is important. So what is your definition of this post, please let me know by commenting down below. 😀
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