//Sorry for the errors in my sentences, I am too tired to correct it. You get me, right? Anyhoo I promise to do my duties right next time. //
Hello and good evening (it’s evening where I live). I did not think this through. (See Tanya that is why you need to plan things and schedule posts).
So as we can clearly see I have failed at this project and I am 2 whole days late. I guess better late than never. Let’s start, shall we? Today we will discuss Rape Culture. I asked you folks on twitter and this got the most number of votes so here I am.
Rape Culture a term coined by feminists (Yea! I know right) in the 1970’s and it is a part of Second-wave Feminism. What does rape culture actually stand for? What does this term mean? This term that is everywhere now, from your feed on Facebook to TV anchors discussing it on the 9’o clock debate. Rape culture in simpler terms is a setting where rape has become the norm, an environment in which the sexual assault against women is normalized.
In a country where rape wasn’t a major issue before the Nirbahaya Rape Case that took the whole nation by a storm. And the laws for the protection of women increased. But so did, the rape cases. Maybe earlier the issues weren’t brought to light and now that the laws have strengthed there are more cases being brought for public scrutiny. Unfortunately, this has become so frequent that it doesn’t affect us that gravely anymore.
Let’s talk about a few behaviors related to rape culture –
- Blaming the Victim – In the past and in a few instances of the present to be raped is considered to be the worst thing that can possibly happen to you. In the past people went as forward as to say that it’s better to be dead than raped. There was a huge belief floating around that rape victims are responsible for what has happened to them and that they deserve it. It’s BS. We honestly can’t blame the victim, this term in itself is wrong.
- It’s easy, right? She shouldn’t go out in the night. A girl/woman is delicate like a flower petal. And men? Oh! They are like thorns that are supposed to protect the pretty flowers. WELL NO! A woman can do whatever she feels like, wear whatever she wants to, flaunt her body, go out in the night ALONE and “She was asking for it.” will never be a valid excuse for rape. Dear society, I beg you please stop telling your daughters to wear respectable clothing, stop telling them that their father’s house is not their permanent residence, stop judging a woman who can’t cook and instead teach your sons to respect everyone irrespective of their gender. Teach them that consent is a basic human right.
- The saddest past is that even after numerous candle marches, silent protests, thousands of articles like this existing on the internet we still have people raping. The whole taboo around this word astonishes me. We still don’t talk about this openly. Surprisingly we don’t talk about a lot of important things either (My friend is hosting a Project Taboo that you can take a look at here.)
- Lastly, slut shaming is another factor of rape culture. Slut shaming a term given to people especially women who show signs of sexual behaviors which upset the set traditional expectations. An example of this is given in the famous book “The Scarlett Letter” written by Nathaniel Hawthorne where the main character Hester Prynne, has to wear the letter A on her dress. A standing for adulteress.
Finally, I would like to leave you with few things to ponder upon. What is worse than the atrocity that dehumanizes people? The tolerance and indifference towards it. Accepting things the way they are. And that my friend is rape culture. The fact that it has become so normal and just another headline in the media.
Here is a poem I wrote on rape – I Promise
The lovely Shalini and Aashi took part in this project and I will link their posts below so you can read their perspective.
The first part is here – #Towardsequality Project
And until next time……