#TowardsEquality Project Pt :- 4 : Rape Culture

//Sorry for the errors in my sentences, I am too tired to correct it. You get me, right? Anyhoo I promise to do my duties right next time. //

Hello and good evening (it’s evening where I live). I did not think this through. (See Tanya that is why you need to plan things and schedule posts).

So as we can clearly see I have failed at this project and I am 2 whole days late. I guess better late than never. Let’s start, shall we? Today we will discuss Rape Culture. I asked you folks on twitter and this got the most number of votes so here I am.

Rape Culture a term coined by feminists (Yea! I know right) in the 1970’s and it is a part of Second-wave Feminism. What does rape culture actually stand for? What does this term mean? This term that is everywhere now, from your feed on Facebook to TV anchors discussing it on the 9’o clock debate. Rape culture in simpler terms is a setting where rape has become the norm, an environment in which the sexual assault against women is normalized.

In a country where rape wasn’t a major issue before the Nirbahaya Rape Case that took the whole nation by a storm. And the laws for the protection of women increased. But so did, the rape cases. Maybe earlier the issues weren’t brought to light and now that the laws have strengthed there are more cases being brought for public scrutiny. Unfortunately, this has become so frequent that it doesn’t affect us that gravely anymore.

 

Let’s talk about a few behaviors related to rape culture –

  • Blaming the Victim – In the past and in a few instances of the present to be raped is considered to be the worst thing that can possibly happen to you. In the past people went as forward as to say that it’s better to be dead than raped. There was a huge belief floating around that rape victims are responsible for what has happened to them and that they deserve it. It’s BS. We honestly can’t blame the victim, this term in itself is wrong.
  • It’s easy, right? She shouldn’t go out in the night. A girl/woman is delicate like a flower petal. And men? Oh! They are like thorns that are supposed to protect the pretty flowers. WELL NO! A woman can do whatever she feels like, wear whatever she wants to, flaunt her body, go out in the night ALONE and “She was asking for it.” will never be a valid excuse for rape. Dear society, I beg you please stop telling your daughters to wear respectable clothing, stop telling them that their father’s house is not their permanent residence, stop judging a woman who can’t cook and instead teach your sons to respect everyone irrespective of their gender. Teach them that consent is a basic human right.
  • The saddest past is that even after numerous candle marches, silent protests, thousands of articles like this existing on the internet we still have people raping. The whole taboo around this word astonishes me. We still don’t talk about this openly. Surprisingly we don’t talk about a lot of important things either (My friend is hosting a Project Taboo that you can take a look at here.)
  • Lastly, slut shaming is another factor of rape culture. Slut shaming a term given to people especially women who show signs of sexual behaviors which upset the set traditional expectations. An example of this is given in the famous book “The Scarlett Letter” written by Nathaniel Hawthorne where the main character Hester Prynne, has to wear the letter A on her dress. A standing for adulteress.

Finally, I would like to leave you with few things to ponder upon. What is worse than the atrocity that dehumanizes people? The tolerance and indifference towards it. Accepting things the way they are. And that my friend is rape culture. The fact that it has become so normal and just another headline in the media.

Here is a poem I wrote on rape – I Promise

The lovely Shalini and Aashi took part in this project and I will link their posts below so you can read their perspective.

WHY ME?

Towards Equality #1

The first part is here – #Towardsequality Project

My social media links are :-
Twitter : @scribledreams || Instagram : @scribledreams || Snapchat – tanya.sahay1 ||  Email me at – scribledreams@gmail.com

 

 

 

And until next time……

 

13 Comment

  1. Sure I will. Even I am not writing any post now. Thanks Tanya. It’s always a pleasure to discuss anything with you. All the very best for your exams. 🙂

  2. […] My last post is here. […]

  3. Smita Ray says: Reply

    Another dark side of society. Often these rapists have reasons to rape! All the best for all your efforts towards bringing awareness about these issues. Be blessed.

    1. Tanya says: Reply

      Thank you so much. I am trying to do my part. I hope have a great day!

  4. […] Tanya Debbie Ally Jacquie Pierina Eve Jasmine […]

  5. Great post. Absolutely worthwhile. The topic itself makes each effort of drawing attention towards it meaningful. I loved it.

    1. Tanya says: Reply

      Thank you so much. You just made my day. Thank you thank you thank you. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

      1. Thanks! It’s always fun reading your posts. I don’t necessarily like or comment every time as sometimes I so caught up in my work that I only read but I do love reading them. 🙂

        1. Tanya says: Reply

          You reading them is all that matters. You’re so sweet. Thank you and I hope you had an amazing day. ☺️

          1. As you have been writing about rape,If I may suggest you something, please write about the barbaric ritual of marrying a victim to the rapist in our society. I have often read it in newspapers. Even forgiving a rapists could be very difficult ( I can’t even think of it! He must be shamed and punished) but suppose a woman does that , it would be difficult to be friend with him or feel respect for him all the same. Even after he is punished. How can one even think of loving or marrying him? It’s brutal and another rape with her life. How torturous it could be is beyond imagination!

            1. Tanya says: Reply

              I have actually written a post on marital rape. It’s called ‘A Perfect Illusion’ and you can find it on my blog. Also, thank you so much for the suggestion I highly appreciate it. And it’s disgusting to imagine the society agree to such a terrible ritual. A rapist should be sentenced to death. It’s an unforgivable crime. Unfortunately our country has a long way to go for that.

              1. Smita Ray says: Reply

                You are most welcome, Tanya. I have read it. Another great post. I really appreciate your efforts to raise issues like marital rape. But it is the rape after marriage. Yes, a few years ago it wasn’t even a crime. Only recently, people started getting aware of it. Yet here I am talking about incidents when a victim is forced to marry a rapist. When the girl already knows that the person she is to be married is a rapist and not just that he raped no one else but her!

                1. Tanya says: Reply

                  Thank you and yes I completely understand what you are trying to convey. It is heart wrenching to believe that we live in a society which agrees to this. All of this is a part of rape culture. You have great points on this. I think you should totally do a post on this. Or/and we can even do a collab. But I have loads of school work and exams coming up. So that will take time. Looking forward to hearing from you. Xx

Did you like this? Comment your views here.